Hi all,
Some of you know me well on here and some of you don’t, I tend to be the positive person on the match day threads and the draft area.
Onto what this is really about...
All honesty I feel like my life is going nowhere expect downhill. No matter how hard I try it feels it’s going no where and I feel my issues and things I’ve raised haven’t been taken into account how I feel. My depression and anxiety has hit me really and I’ve just been signed off work on sick due to my mental health. I feel I am letting my family down, friends and myself. I look forward to every Sunday as that’s when my boys play and I feel happy again, sad isn’t it?
Work life -
I work for the government in the defence industry and I’m finding it very hard to cope with some colleagues and today I got pulled away from my team and was addressed with an unformal warning about what I was saying over Skype for Business. Basically I said I hate my team and find it really hard at times and I don’t like a team member what so ever and how she address me and how she talks to me.
Sorry for such a negative and downhearted post. Just needed somewhere to let this all out.
Thank you for those who have read this really do appreciate it.
hi.....here is what i think.....i try to abide by it myself.....with mixed results
try to surround yourself with positive people who bring out the best in you.....spousal relationship is obviously important.....communication and trust are paramount....let her know how important it is to feel that she supports you and believes in you
try to find a way to do positive and constructive things in your life (work, hobbies, fun).....if that necessitates a job change, then so be it......i am thinking of trying to transition to something more positive and fulfilling
dont be afraid to challenge negative people in your life(in a constructive way).....people will sometimes try to treat you and define you in a negative way that makes themselves look better and feel superior......just an unfortunate consequence of how life can be a zero sum struggle from time to time
dont take things too personally.....most things and most people dont matter that much in your life.....we all worry too much about the opinions of people who really arent that important relative to our life
regarding the people that do matter like family and close friends.....try everything to
make things right with them....if you can change anything with yourself to improve the relationships, do it.....but dont be afraid to challenge them either....if need be
dont feel that you are down in a rut by yourself......you're not......most people pretend to be happier and stronger and more confident than they really are
therapy might help.....i have done it......sometimes hard to transfer the new more positive cognitions and behaviour to the real world on a day to day basis
exercise has always been good for me.....burns up stress hormones.....gets endorphins flowing
pills can help.....i have been on everything from lexapro to nardil to klonopin to adderall at one time or another
just my opinion.....principles i aspire to achieving.....
