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Perhaps it's more accurately described instead of anger or a grudge, as accepting, dealing with and not forgetting reality.
Let's face it. Tom was treated like he was a drug-busted and addicted, character liability locker room cancer loser. Bill admits that he blew it too, he should have drafted Tom earlier.
We can try to pretty up the words all we want, in a vain and futile effort to pretend that "talking it out" or "not holding a grudge" somehow solves anything. It doesn't, and history's pretty damned clear on that. For example, Brady can insist that he has no problem with Goodell all he wants, but we've all seen the pictures, and we all know better than to believe him.
We get past things when we decide that what was once hurtful/annoying is now not worth any mental effort, not when we've talked about it, or proclaimed some lack of a grudge.
Or, to put it another way: Any man who's lived with a woman for any amount of time knows damned well that the time he called her shoes/nose/mother/etc... ugly/fat/stupid/etc... is going to keep coming up, no matter how often the woman insists it wasn't important, there's no anger there, and it's all in the past, and no matter how often it gets talked out.