As you say, everyone's free to navigate the various reports as they see fit.
As above, to me 2018 was the **** or get off the pot moment. Plan A: extend Tom with a contract that rewards him for what he's putting up with. Plan B: Draft Lamar instead of Sony to keep the heat on Brady and so you have something once he leaves. We got no plan at all.
I think Bob's actions show that while he really appreciated Brady, when push comes to shove he valued BB over Tom. As you say he didn't force Bill to resign Brady to a contract that would reward him, nor did he step in to get any other accommodations for Tom, he just let Bill do what he wanted to do. I feel this was due to the aftermath of the Pete Carroll era where he got tagged as being a meddling owner. He didn't want to be that guy, again, but IMO he paid a big price for not stepping in.