OT: UK Pats Fan Suffering depression

[neuronet]

Hang in there, and keep coming here and unloading on us if you need. Sometimes it can help to just recalibrate to come in and say what's up. Sounds like a ****ty situation at work.

 

[Mike the Brit]

I'm very sorry to hear this. You're in my thoughts. Mike

 

[jah]

Hey dude. Not sure how much help I can be other than to say I know how it feels. I've been spending most of 2017 just trying not to kill myself, and when I try to take positive steps (therapy, exercise), they tend to backfire or do nothing.

Maybe this is similar to what you're going through. Maybe it's different. But I do know what it's like to feel like you're out of options, and the only advice I can really give (that I have plenty of trouble with sticking to by myself) is to just keep throwing **** at the wall until something sticks.

At this point, I tend more toward temporary distractions rather than real attempts at solving my problems, and maybe that's okay for now. You can't fix the whole thing in a day. You just recharge and do what you can when you can.

I sincerely hope things improve for you.

 

[jah]

Oh, and 2 more things:

1) Sorry about all the self-centered talk in my long post. I tried to use my own experience to help but I understand if it comes across as me derailing with my own baggage.

2) Feel free to PM me if you think it could help.

 

[SammyBlueCat]

 

[ralmat55]

You have been in my thoughts since reading your original post. And. I’ve wondered what I could say that would be helpful if anything.

As many on this forum know, a severe bout of depression 2 years ago brought me to the edge of suicide. A miracle occurred and suddenly I was sharing how I felt in this forum and the tidal wave of care, concern and love sent back my way saved my life.

You came to the right place to find shoulders on which to cry. We care and want happiness and joy for you.

As I advance into my older years, one piece of advice I would offer is to know the most important choice you make in your life is what you do to earn a living. If you’re not proud to say what you do and for whom you work, you should do something else even if it sets you back financially. Life is too precious and short to spend 25% of your time and an ever increasing percentage of your energy working a job you despise or you don’t feel fulfills you. Wish I had the courage and energy to follow my own advice.

God bless you my friend! You are in my prayers.

 

[mosslost]

Hi all,

Admin feel free to delete if not appropriate.

Some of you know me well on here and some of you don’t, I tend to be the positive person on the match day threads and the draft area.

Onto what this is really about...

All honesty I feel like my life is going nowhere expect downhill. No matter how hard I try it feels it’s going no where and I feel my issues and things I’ve raised haven’t been taken into account how I feel. My depression and anxiety has hit me really and I’ve just been signed off work on sick due to my mental health. I feel I am letting my family down, friends and myself. I look forward to every Sunday as that’s when my boys play and I feel happy again, sad isn’t it?

Work life -

I work for the government in the defence industry and I’m finding it very hard to cope with some colleagues and today I got pulled away from my team and was addressed with an unformal warning about what I was saying over Skype for Business. Basically I said I hate my team and find it really hard at times and I don’t like a team member what so ever and how she address me and how she talks to me.


Sorry for such a negative and downhearted post. Just needed somewhere to let this all out.

Thank you for those who have read this really do appreciate it.

Hello Snooky,

Sounds crappy sorry to hear. Sometimes things just seem ****ty. I remember reading someone's post on here one time referencing having to run off to their "soul crushing job". A lot of us feel that way at least some of the time. I can't wait to retire and it's still a few years off.

As for depression make sure you have help and support. Do not hesitate to get help if you feel you need it. We only get this one life and there is no reason for us to be miserable. I personally am determined to enjoy my days I have here, and sometimes I fail miserably at that goal but I think it is an important goal for all of us to set for ourselves. Easier said then done of course. Post anytime.

 

[mosslost]

With all due respect, one does not need to believe in a god or gods to receive relief from depression or anxiety.

 

[PatsWSB47]

Snooky, At 59 I reinvented myself and went into the health care field. There's no more fullling a job I've ever been in. Knowing you helped someone have a better day is very rewarding and uplifting. I wish I had done it years ago.....You can help people......food for thought.

 

[supafly]

Hang in there, and keep coming here and unloading on us if you need. Sometimes it can help to just recalibrate to come in and say what's up. Sounds like a ****ty situation at work.

Hey dude. Not sure how much help I can be other than to say I know how it feels. I've been spending most of 2017 just trying not to kill myself, and when I try to take positive steps (therapy, exercise), they tend to backfire or do nothing.

Maybe this is similar to what you're going through. Maybe it's different. But I do know what it's like to feel like you're out of options, and the only advice I can really give (that I have plenty of trouble with sticking to by myself) is to just keep throwing **** at the wall until something sticks.

At this point, I tend more toward temporary distractions rather than real attempts at solving my problems, and maybe that's okay for now. You can't fix the whole thing in a day. You just recharge and do what you can when you can.

I sincerely hope things improve for you.

Excellent advice, in my opinion. Couldn’t have offered anything more, myself. Feel free to reach out to any of us, anytime. Keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Also, I’ve tried to use comedy to my advantage while going through some health issues. Stand up specials, podcasts, etc. Sometimes it helps just to have something to smile about. One day at a time. You never know when things will improve.

 

[jah]

Excellent advice, in my opinion. Couldn’t have offered anything more, myself. Feel free to reach out to any of us, anytime. Keep putting one foot in front of the other.

Also, I’ve tried to use comedy to my advantage while going through some health issues. Stand up specials, podcasts, etc. Sometimes it helps just to have something to smile about. One day at a time. You never know when things will improve.

Oh, for sure. I can't really fall asleep asleep anymore without watching some episode of a sitcom I've practically memorized (although lately, rewatching Patriots wins has helped keep me sane).

 

[SammyBlueCat]

With all due respect, one does not need to believe in a god or gods to receive relief from depression or anxiety.

Yes - art is subject to interpretation and I understand that this forum is pluralistic. People wrote the artists (Red) expressing themselves and basically thanking them.

 

[supafly]

Oh, for sure. I can't really fall asleep asleep anymore without watching some episode of a sitcom I've practically memorized (although lately, rewatching Patriots wins has helped keep me sane).

I feel you, man. I can’t even list all of the entire series’ that I’ve watched in the middle of the night trying to fall asleep. The wife goes to bed early and I’m either tossing and turning while checking the phone and posting on here, or I’m watching 5 episodes in a row of stuff like “The Office,” “Trailer Park Boys,” etc. Some of it is ridiculous, but it’s better than what I would’ve done in the past, like excessive drinking, eating a bunch of pills, etc.

 

[jah]

I feel you, man. I can’t even list all of the entire series’ that I’ve watched in the middle of the night trying to fall asleep. The wife goes to bed early and I’m either tossing and turning while checking the phone and posting on here, or I’m watching 5 episodes in a row of stuff like “The Office,” “Trailer Park Boys,” etc. Some of it is ridiculous, but it’s better than what I would’ve done in the past, like excessive drinking, eating a bunch of pills, etc.

Both of those shows are the first two that come to mind for what I was talking about.

 

[Froob]

Both of those shows are the first two that come to mind for what I was talking about.

I watch clips of Curb and Seinfeld when I feel bummed, helps a little bit. Just thankful our team doesn’t suck, almost always something to smile about each Sunday.

 

[Snooky97]

Thanks all for the tremendous amount of support. I would go through and individually reply to you all but I really am lost for words, means a great deal to me and il never be able to repay you for it. With regards to my job I can’t disclose a lot about it because of numerous reasons...

I am so thankful I have you hear so I can just ramble on some pointless crap and people don’t seem to bothered by it, sounds strange I know but makes a world of difference.

I’ve seen my doctor this week already and have been signed off from work with my depression. I’ve also been told to see my doctor regularly due to my depression as she’s worried I could fall back into a painful episode I once had (couldn’t leave the house without being sick!)

I just want to again say thank you for the support and love and care you have shown and given to me.

Being a Pats Fan is not about the bowls and laughing at the jets, and steelers. It’s this sort of family bond that we have here and all share. So thank you to all of you here.

Hopefully one day I will actually be able to make a game out there!

Thank you all once again.

X

 

[Tony2046]

Thanks all for the tremendous amount of support. I would go through and individually reply to you all but I really am lost for words, means a great deal to me and il never be able to repay you for it. With regards to my job I can’t disclose a lot about it because of numerous reasons...

I am so thankful I have you hear so I can just ramble on some pointless crap and people don’t seem to bothered by it, sounds strange I know but makes a world of difference.

I’ve seen my doctor this week already and have been signed off from work with my depression. I’ve also been told to see my doctor regularly due to my depression as she’s worried I could fall back into a painful episode I once had (couldn’t leave the house without being sick!)

I just want to again say thank you for the support and love and care you have shown and given to me.

Being a Pats Fan is not about the bowls and laughing at the jets, and steelers. It’s this sort of family bond that we have here and all share. So thank you to all of you here.

Hopefully one day I will actually be able to make a game out there!

Thank you all once again.

X

Well.....it's a little bit about the bowls and laughing at the Jets, and the Squealers........

Just kidding. I know what you meant.

 

[Ring 6]

Hey dude. Not sure how much help I can be other than to say I know how it feels. I've been spending most of 2017 just trying not to kill myself, and when I try to take positive steps (therapy, exercise), they tend to backfire or do nothing.

Maybe this is similar to what you're going through. Maybe it's different. But I do know what it's like to feel like you're out of options, and the only advice I can really give (that I have plenty of trouble with sticking to by myself) is to just keep throwing **** at the wall until something sticks.

At this point, I tend more toward temporary distractions rather than real attempts at solving my problems, and maybe that's okay for now. You can't fix the whole thing in a day. You just recharge and do what you can when you can.

I sincerely hope things improve for you.

Have you sought help from a professional?
If you are making those comments publicly (albeit anonymously) I strongly suggest you seek care.
Stay strong. Things will get better.

 

[Ring 6]

Thanks all for the tremendous amount of support. I would go through and individually reply to you all but I really am lost for words, means a great deal to me and il never be able to repay you for it. With regards to my job I can’t disclose a lot about it because of numerous reasons...

I am so thankful I have you hear so I can just ramble on some pointless crap and people don’t seem to bothered by it, sounds strange I know but makes a world of difference.

I’ve seen my doctor this week already and have been signed off from work with my depression. I’ve also been told to see my doctor regularly due to my depression as she’s worried I could fall back into a painful episode I once had (couldn’t leave the house without being sick!)

I just want to again say thank you for the support and love and care you have shown and given to me.

Being a Pats Fan is not about the bowls and laughing at the jets, and steelers. It’s this sort of family bond that we have here and all share. So thank you to all of you here.

Hopefully one day I will actually be able to make a game out there!

Thank you all once again.

X

The support you felt is the beginning not the end of it. Keep posting if it will help and don’t be a stranger.

 

[Ring 6]

You have been in my thoughts since reading your original post. And. I’ve wondered what I could say that would be helpful if anything.

As many on this forum know, a severe bout of depression 2 years ago brought me to the edge of suicide. A miracle occurred and suddenly I was sharing how I felt in this forum and the tidal wave of care, concern and love sent back my way saved my life.

You came to the right place to find shoulders on which to cry. We care and want happiness and joy for you.

As I advance into my older years, one piece of advice I would offer is to know the most important choice you make in your life is what you do to earn a living. If you’re not proud to say what you do and for whom you work, you should do something else even if it sets you back financially. Life is too precious and short to spend 25% of your time and an ever increasing percentage of your energy working a job you despise or you don’t feel fulfills you. Wish I had the courage and energy to follow my own advice.

God bless you my friend! You are in my prayers.

Kenneth Sims, you are the real MVP.