I Could Use Your Thoughts and Prayers

[neuronet]

I have boundless energy and my skin is becoming more vibrant and the gals are taking notice and my self esteem is up. It's the best thing I've ever done for me.

Has your income doubled, and do you have an informational pamphlet that you would be happy to share with me?

(Just joshin', if it works I'm happy 4u)

 

[Hercules Rockefeller]

Wow, thanks for sharing the info, Herc. I will most definitely be checking it out, as I'm adding the author and title to my phone's notes right now. Thank you very much for the suggestion. I greatly appreciate it.

No doubt Sup, glad to help. Keep an open mind and a can do spirit--the **** she asks you to do is daunting at first, but it works. You CAN cure yourself and take charge of it.

 

[Hercules Rockefeller]

Has your income doubled, and do you have an informational pamphlet that you would be happy to share with me?

(Just joshin', if it works I'm happy 4u)

Hahaha, sometimes I think that lady should put me on her payroll, this is something like the 5th different person I've recommended it to.

And yeah I've made over $78,000 in the last month by working from home! Click here to find out how!

 

[ralmat55]

Hey Hercules! I have psoriasis as well, so I am going to read the book too. Not much arthritis yet but have had fibromyalgia for almost 25 years and, perhaps, it might help with that.

Have been hit hard by a cold since last week. Took today off from work because I had such a bad sinus headache that I felt nauseous whenever I lifted my head. Just another reminder that I need to pay more attention to my health.

As for my mental health, on Friday afternoon, I got an email from my ex urging me to pray for her and apologizing for being so weak and needy. She didn't provide any details as to what was going on nor has she emailed since.

Of course I'm concerned. I am praying for her and will continue to do so. That's all I can do.


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[neuronet]

As for my mental health, on Friday afternoon, I got an email from my ex urging me to pray for her and apologizing for being so weak and needy. She didn't provide any details as to what was going on nor has she emailed since.

Dear Ex,

Don't you have a guy with a funny accent whose family you destroyed that needs to be your whine outlet now? I'm not that outlet anymore: you gave up that privilege when you hid from me in the police station that day. You can kindly suck it and stop whining to me, and quit trying to keep hooks in me with vague and ****ty emails.

Please lose my email address.

Sincerely,
Kenneth Sims

 

[PatsDeb]

Glad you are feeling better but as others have said, please get professional help. Having a counselor to pour out your heart to, or meds to help you through the rough patches can be a godsend. Take some time to heal yourself, and when you are ready, there will be someone else to share things with. If you can, try to remember always you are a good person and if your wife wants to end things, it's her loss, not yours. She is giving up a man who loved her a lot and she'll regret that one day. It sounds dumb to quote Ivana Trump, but she was right, "living well is the best revenge." Put yourself first, squarely in the driver's seat and look forward, not back. It will be tough, but you can do it. You've already started by working up the courage to post here.

Dear Kenneth - I thought it would be useful to remind you of my first post to you. The chickens are coming home to roost.

 

[Hercules Rockefeller]

Hey Hercules! I have psoriasis as well, so I am going to read the book too. Not much arthritis yet but have had fibromyalgia for almost 25 years and, perhaps, it might help with that.

Have been hit hard by a cold since last week. Took today off from work because I had such a bad sinus headache that I felt nauseous whenever I lifted my head. Just another reminder that I need to pay more attention to my health.

As for my mental health, on Friday afternoon, I got an email from my ex urging me to pray for her and apologizing for being so weak and needy. She didn't provide any details as to what was going on nor has she emailed since.

Of course I'm concerned. I am praying for her and will continue to do so. That's all I can do.


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Awesome man, glad to hear you're looking into it! It's helped me, really changed my life. Let me know how it's going.

 

[mosslost]

Hey Hercules! I have psoriasis as well, so I am going to read the book too. Not much arthritis yet but have had fibromyalgia for almost 25 years and, perhaps, it might help with that.

Have been hit hard by a cold since last week. Took today off from work because I had such a bad sinus headache that I felt nauseous whenever I lifted my head. Just another reminder that I need to pay more attention to my health.

As for my mental health, on Friday afternoon, I got an email from my ex urging me to pray for her and apologizing for being so weak and needy. She didn't provide any details as to what was going on nor has she emailed since.

Of course I'm concerned. I am praying for her and will continue to do so. That's all I can do.


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Tell her she got shunned by the Elders since she has been gone and they ex-communicated her. And she is not welcome at the next pot luck either.

 

[Tony2046]

Hey Hercules! I have psoriasis as well, so I am going to read the book too. Not much arthritis yet but have had fibromyalgia for almost 25 years and, perhaps, it might help with that.

Have been hit hard by a cold since last week. Took today off from work because I had such a bad sinus headache that I felt nauseous whenever I lifted my head. Just another reminder that I need to pay more attention to my health.

As for my mental health, on Friday afternoon, I got an email from my ex urging me to pray for her and apologizing for being so weak and needy. She didn't provide any details as to what was going on nor has she emailed since.

Of course I'm concerned. I am praying for her and will continue to do so. That's all I can do.


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You knew it was coming. You mentioned before that the people you trust had warned you that she would come back. Just remember that she is still in the same state of mind as when she left. Be careful. I would highly suggest dating other women, when you are ready, before jumping back into that situation. Nothing wrong praying for her but pray for yourself as well.

My Ex used to write letters to my mother but it was always when she was in trouble. I prayed for her as well but never responded.

 

[ralmat55]

Just checking in to say that I am doing well despite not hearing anything from my ex since her "please pray for me email". I even sent her an email Monday night asking her to respond so I knew she was okay but nothing. All I can do is pray for her. That's what she asked me to do and that's what I am doing.

I got a message from PB 12 earlier this week. I had not heard from him in awhile. It did not sound like he was in a good place. Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers as well as Supafly as he deals with his health problems.

I hope this thread lives on. As a community, there is always suffering in our ranks, and this thread would be a good place for people to explain how they are hurting and for this community to rally to their support the way this community rose to support me. I owe you all my life. You are all the best!


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[anditsgood]

Just checking in to say that I am doing well despite not hearing anything from my ex since her "please pray for me email". I even sent her an email Monday night asking her to respond so I knew she was okay but nothing. All I can do is pray for her. That's what she asked me to do and that's what I am doing.

I got a message from PB 12 earlier this week. I had not heard from him in awhile. It did not sound like he was in a good place. Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers as well as Supafly as he deals with his health problems.

I hope this thread lives on. As a community, there is always suffering in our ranks, and this thread would be a good place for people to explain how they are hurting and for this community to rally to their support the way this community rose to support me. I owe you all my life. You are all the best!


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No, You owe us to get through all of this, nothing else. Then, do the same (i know you will) with others

 

[supafly]

I got a message from PB 12 earlier this week. I had not heard from him in awhile. It did not sound like he was in a good place. Please keep him in your thoughts and prayers as well as Supafly as he deals with his health problems.

Thank you for your kindness and positive vibes, but this is about you and @PatsBoy12 overcoming obstacles with the help of our patsfans.com community. I do appreciate the gesture, however.

Thoughts and prayers for both of you, and as always, I am here to help in any way possible. Glad to see that you're holding up well lately, Kenneth. Hope to hear from PatsBoy very soon. Feel free to PM me or any one of us should the desire arise.

 

[shmessy]

As for my mental health, on Friday afternoon, I got an email from my ex urging me to pray for her and apologizing for being so weak and needy. She didn't provide any details as to what was going on nor has she emailed since.

Of course I'm concerned. I am praying for her and will continue to do so. That's all I can do.

WINNER.

You are overcoming AND still have the grace to be empathetic.

Remember, your past is closed and COMPLETE and your future is an OPEN DOOR.

Once again - - WINNER.

 

[shmessy]

PB12, we are here.

 

[Reckedtrek]

Ken, pray for her, but I encourage you to fight the desire to take her back if she tries to pull that trick. You deserve better.

@Patboy12, don't be a stranger here, my man. Consider this your "Cheers", and you are like Normy (that's meant as a compliment, by the way!). Check in!

 

[ralmat55]

Doing okay despite it being a sentimental day. It was 8 years ago today that I met my ex for the first time.

We had been introduced by her sister who used to work with me and had been emailing each other for a week or so. It was Thanksgiving eve, and she was in a funk as her husband had just died 3 months ago. So, even though we had agreed to a first date the day after Thanksgiving, I traveled out to her house (now my house), to cheer her up. I got lost and she met me at corner store to lead me to the house. When I got out of my car to meet her. I hit the panic button setting the horn and lights off. We had a good laugh, and, as I followed her home, I noticed I had popped the trunk getting back into the car, so I'm wondering just how stupid she's going to think I am.

We hit it off and it was a memorable night. I used to tell people it was the night I met the two great loves of my life - her and her big German Shepherd, my precious Moses.

Now, I have neither. Wonderful memories that are now bittersweet.


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[anditsgood]

Doing okay despite it being a sentimental day. It was 8 years ago today that I met my ex for the first time.

We had been introduced by her sister who used to work with me and had been emailing each other for a week or so. It was Thanksgiving eve, and she was in a funk as her husband had just died 3 months ago. So, even though we had agreed to a first date the day after Thanksgiving, I traveled out to her house (now my house), to cheer her up. I got lost and she met me at corner store to lead me to the house. When I got out of my car to meet her. I hit the panic button setting the horn and lights off. We had a good laugh, and, as I followed her home, I noticed I had popped the trunk getting back into the car, so I'm wondering just how stupid she's going to think I am.

We hit it off and it was a memorable night. I used to tell people it was the night I met the two great loves of my life - her and her big German Shepherd, my precious Moses.

Now, I have neither. Wonderful memories that are now bittersweet.


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Kenneth, the first of everything is going to be tough, there are going to be reminders of everyday, you need to occupy your mind, its not going to be easy, we are here for you...

 

[Nikolai]

I just want to echo what some others are saying, and what I said earlier in this thread. Never, ever, EVER take her back. In fact, I'm sending you a PM after this post.

Doing okay despite it being a sentimental day. It was 8 years ago today that I met my ex for the first time.

We had been introduced by her sister who used to work with me and had been emailing each other for a week or so. It was Thanksgiving eve, and she was in a funk as her husband had just died 3 months ago. So, even though we had agreed to a first date the day after Thanksgiving, I traveled out to her house (now my house), to cheer her up. I got lost and she met me at corner store to lead me to the house. When I got out of my car to meet her. I hit the panic button setting the horn and lights off. We had a good laugh, and, as I followed her home, I noticed I had popped the trunk getting back into the car, so I'm wondering just how stupid she's going to think I am.

We hit it off and it was a memorable night. I used to tell people it was the night I met the two great loves of my life - her and her big German Shepherd, my precious Moses.

Now, I have neither. Wonderful memories that are now bittersweet.


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Yeah, those days are going to be tough. It's like mourning really. Anniversaries of certain dates will come and go and you're going to feel that pain. You sound a bit like me in that you know all these specific dates of things, and that's only going to make it harder in the early going. It's all part of the healing process, actually, the pain. I always encourage others to let it bleed because eventually...even if it takes a hot minute, the shock wears off, the sting lessens each time you feel it, and you start to see everything for what it is...one more chapter in your life that will give you the wisdom and insight to help others one day.

 

[ralmat55]

My ex has Dissociative identity disorder stemming from abuse she suffered at the hands of her teenage brother when she was 8 years old. The condition is more commonly known as Multiple (or split) Personality disorder..

For most of our life together, I lived with two distinct personalities each of whom interacted with me differently and had separate memories. One was the mature woman whom I adored. The other by speech, gestures and behavior was a pouty and petulant 8 year old.who would come out when she felt secure such as bedtime or when relaxing around the house. I knew this before I married her, and I married her anyway. I loved her that much and figured after dealing with my mother's problems that I could take care of her as well as anyone.

Last fall I watched a third personality emerge and take control. I will always believe it was brought on by the onset of menopause This personality revealed itself to me on two occasions saying "it put the old (her) away because she was too nice ". It is this personality that cheated on me, left me and broke up a family to be with the man of her obsession.

The hard part is the personality that I loved and loves me is still there. She has been kidnapped. Even after the third personality emerged, there were moments, precious few, when the old her interacted with me. There was a struggle between the personalities. This why she wouldn't see me after she left and hid the time I took it upon myself to see her. Isuspect there still is. When I get emails like "pray for me and sorry I'm weak and needy", it is easy for me to believe that the personality that loves me is reaching out. Especially, when at the same time she sent that email, she posted a recording on the Karoake site of her singing "Unchained Melody". A song whose most memorable lyrics are "I need your love" and "I'll be coming home wait for me".

I know this all sounds crazy which is why I've not posted about it earlier discussing it only with Ian and PB12. But, it's what I've lived. I hope this helps explain why this has been so hard on me, why it had been hard for me to be mad at her and why I've wanted to stay in touch with her knowing it was better for me that I didn't..

Thanks to all of my friends( especially my Patsfans.com friends) and family, I have survived the crush of emotions and lifelong depression, that caused me to want very much to die. I am going to survive this regardless of what happens with my ex-wife. I've always looked at myself as being weak, but it turns out I'm a fairly tough bastard after all.

I do not know if I would take her in if she came back. I will pray for her always the rest of my life. And I would always help her as a friend. But, before I took her back as my life partner, I would insist on counseling for both of us. That's today's plan anyway.




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[mosslost]

My ex has Dissociative identity disorder stemming from abuse she suffered at the hands of her teenage brother when she was 8 years old. The condition is more commonly known as Multiple (or split) Personality disorder..

For most of our life together, I lived with two distinct personalities each of whom interacted with me differently and had separate memories. One was the mature woman whom I adored. The other by speech, gestures and behavior was a pouty and petulant 8 year old.who would come out when she felt secure such as bedtime or when relaxing around the house. I knew this before I married her, and I married her anyway. I loved her that much and figured after dealing with my mother's problems that I could take care of her as well as anyone.

Last fall I watched a third personality emerge and take control. I will always believe it was brought on by the onset of menopause This personality revealed itself to me on two occasions saying "it put the old (her) away because she was too nice ". It is this personality that cheated on me, left me and broke up a family to be with the man of her obsession.

The hard part is the personality that I loved and loves me is still there. She has been kidnapped. Even after the third personality emerged, there were moments, precious few, when the old her interacted with me. There was a struggle between the personalities. This why she wouldn't see me after she left and hid the time I took it upon myself to see her. Isuspect there still is. When I get emails like "pray for me and sorry I'm weak and needy", it is easy for me to believe that the personality that loves me is reaching out. Especially, when at the same time she sent that email, she posted a recording on the Karoake site of her singing "Unchained Melody". A song whose most memorable lyrics are "I need your love" and "I'll be coming home wait for me".

I know this all sounds crazy which is why I've not posted about it earlier discussing it only with Ian and PB12. But, it's what I've lived. I hope this helps explain why this has been so hard on me, why it had been hard for me to be mad at her and why I've wanted to stay in touch with her knowing it was better for me that I didn't..

Thanks to all of my friends( especially my Patsfans.com friends) and family, I have survived the crush of emotions and lifelong depression, that caused me to want very much to die. I am going to survive this regardless of what happens with my ex-wife. I've always looked at myself as being weak, but it turns out I'm a fairly tough bastard after all.

I do not know if I would take her in if she came back. I will pray for her always the rest of my life. And I would always help her as a friend. But, before I took her back as my life partner, I would insist on counseling for both of us. That's today's plan anyway.




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