I love physical bball as well- both to watch and play. But there's a difference between physical and dirty.
The longtime standard refereeing approach in the nba was " no harm no foul". Meaning if no advantage was gained by the foul- you don't call it.
Plus of course, no injury.
I agree with it.
What players and coaches are looking for is consistency within a game.
Allow one team to do something, then you gotta,allow the other team as well.
Different refs/crews will ref differently.
That's ok. But within an individual game, refs need to call things the same for both teams and also not waver back and forth calling something a foul in the 3rd qtr that wasn't called a foul in the 2nd qtr.
Players and coaches can adjust to any style game but they need consistently.
It's no different with the nfl or mlb.
Just be f'n consistent within the game.
Do ur damn job