Team Tom gets uncomfortable when recent events cause the flaws of their man to be so evident, so they dig something up from the 1980s and start the whaddaboutism.
We don't know everything, but we do know a lot about what is going on in the Brady situation, because they themselves are telling us. Tom told us he wanted to play to 45, checkmark. Tom told us he was retiring to spend more time on other things, presumably family, since he admitted she has complained in the past he hasn't been doing his part. Tom then told us he was not retiring 44 days later. Captain Obvious himself can see what the bone of contention is. Giesle gave interviews saying he was concerned about the risks of injury and his lack of presence. These were direct quotes from her in People Magazine. Tom took an extra 11 days away from the team during training camp saying "a lot of s--t is going on" and now takes an extra day off a week. Giselle is being seen in public not wearing a wedding ring. Neither has confirmed they have hired lawyers, but neither has denied it either.
It's strange you say no one really knows what is happening in the Brady household except via news reports, yet are happy to trot out a bunch of stuff from the Belichick family from decades ago that we only know about via news reports. If there was a BB presser on it, I must have missed that one. Therefore, by your standard we don't know what went down in the Belichick household decades ago, yet you ran with it anyway.
I agree.
I don't see grounds for fault/blame, but I think it's pretty clear what the bone of contention is. The bread crumbs go back as far as 2020 if not further.
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