I think Tom being out in LA is a good thing for several reasons.
First, lets remember that he probably saw his son for literally 1 or 2 days between when he was born and the Superbowl. I obviously can't say this for sure because I don't know what he did during the bye, but we would have heard if Bridget brought the baby to MA sometime during the season and she obviously did not. He needs to see this kid and since he lives and works 3000 miles away, he doesn't have a lot of flexibility except for NOW - APRIL. So good choice by Tom.
Second, the 2008/9 Patriots really have to worry about 23 other things before QB ok? They need to worry about RDE, NT, LDE, OLB, OLB, ILB, ILB, CB, CB, SS, WS, RT, LT, RG, LG, C, TE, FB, WR, WR, P, K before they need to worry about QB. So let him do what he needs to do.