Indeed. As far as we know, it was all fine through the NE days, and up to the Tampa SB season, and it seems from that point on it was all about her wanting more help raising the kids and him wanting to keep playing football. They made mutually supportive statements on their anniversary in February which was during the brief retirement period (
Tom Brady reveals ‘very difficult issue’ of retirement he and Gisele struggle with ). If there was tension then, neither would cop to it. Every source I've read said the sh!t hit the fan when he unilaterally decided to un-retire in March.