There are two kinds of posters on this, and other message boards. One is reflective about what they are going to say, and question their own thinking and feeling prior to expressing themselves. Like the Quakers do at a meeting: think and carefully before you speak, and be very selective about what you say, because the act of speaking uses a shared resource and takes up space that someone else would have used. Precision, relevance, and the quality of group conversation are valued. The other kind of poster sees the Board as a place for spontaneous expression, a limitless e-space where venting and arguing is entertaining. Creative expression and debating skills are valued. Winning a point brings a sense of personal satisfaction. The first kind of poster resents the second kind, and while protesting their behavior, gets drawn into the debates on which the second kind thrives. If you are the first kind, the only way you get what you want it by doing what you do well: speak infrequently, never in haste, and don't argue.