You know what damages society even more? The attitude that everything is permissible and no one is allowed to judge any sort of behavior because that’s imposing values on others and you have no right to do that.
It doesn’t take “self appointed religious police” to recognize that having a years-long affair is wrong. The overwhelming majority of society - even the non-religious - would agree with that.
I am not going to apologize for having a code of ethics and for stating that years-long affairs falls outside the realm of good behavior. I am not saying it is unrecoverable or it will impact one’s ability to be a HC, but I am also not going to sit here and applaud the activity.