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CLICK HERE to Register for a free account and login for a smoother ad-free experience. It's easy, and only takes a few moments.It’s not that. It’s just the assumption of guilt. Brady had no previous issues besides the Bieber haircut, then some balls were a little deflated and we were bombarded with guilty accusations, even from fans on this forum. Hill beat a pregnant lady, even if this kid supposed fell down ( which is the most common excuse an abuser would say), he still hurt the baby inside it’s mother. If he did hurt this kid then shame on the people that allowed the first infraction to go unpunished.
THATS IT!!!
I used to tell people close to me “On days I find I’m not worried about something, I try to think of something to worry about!”
So what is the update on this situation? Seems like they are still investigating and the Chiefs are waiting for the outcome?
Having empathy, like anything else in life, is good in moderate amounts. Having too much of it is definitely a weakness and will allow people throughout the course of your life to take advantage of you.
Ive been hearing a 3rd woman is involved and Hill and his baby Mama were arguing about her.
Oh boyIve been hearing a 3rd woman is involved and Hill and his baby Mama were arguing about her.
Your post, particularly the final sentence, seems to assume as a starting point that I’m arguing for zero empathy. I’m not. I’m more than willing to give people my empathy in most situations but first it’s met with a healthy dose of skepticism. Why? Because there are a great many people out there who outright suck as human beings. Being a bleeding heart, which our friend that I initially responded to has made himself out to be here and in the past, is a weakness that those with Machiavellian tendencies can, and have, preyed on. An over abundance of empathy is what serial killers have traditionally targeted in their audiences in order to sway public opinion toward them. In moderation, and when first met with questions and skepticism until everything checks out, it’s great. Displayed in excess with no questions asked, it’s a weakness.That's not empathy. You can be empathetic but still hold people accountable. Nothing about trying to understand what caused a person to become what they are automatically turns you into a door mat.
This sentiment, resistance to empathy, smacks of being afraid that one day you might not be able to paint the world in black and white.
They just don't make goomahs like they used to.Oh boy
...a love triangle
Who was the second woman?
Amazing how much energy there is here about child abuse. Most of us have experienced it in some way, either directly or as a witness.
I know a lot more about empathy than I do football. Here's another way to think about it when it runs amok, as an alternative to "too much."
Empathy is made up of two parts: sensitivity to emotions in others , and intelligence about what to do with that data. The behavior that @KontradictioN speaks to comes from sensitivity being much more developed than the intelligence. Those people get overwhelmed by the data they are taking in, and the data is often about pain or discomfort others are feelings.
And, the balancing capability to empathy is assertiveness (sensitivity to and care for the self). "Overly empathetic" people often have an underdeveloped sense of self and ability to be assertive.
So in sum, when someone is overly sensitive, doesn't know what to do with all that emotional data about someone else, and doesn't have an equally strong sense of self, they get weird (technical term).
Interesting thoughts.Amazing how much energy there is here about child abuse. Most of us have experienced it in some way, either directly or as a witness.
I know a lot more about empathy than I do football. Here's another way to think about it when it runs amok, as an alternative to "too much."
Empathy is made up of two parts: sensitivity to emotions in others , and intelligence about what to do with that data. The behavior that @KontradictioN speaks to comes from sensitivity being much more developed than the intelligence. Those people get overwhelmed by the data they are taking in, and the data is often about pain or discomfort others are feelings.
And, the balancing capability to empathy is assertiveness (sensitivity to and care for the self). "Overly empathetic" people often have an underdeveloped sense of self and ability to be assertive.
So in sum, when someone is overly sensitive, doesn't know what to do with all that emotional data about someone else, and doesn't have an equally strong sense of self, they get weird (technical term).
Who was the second woman?
We dont know if child abuse occurred here.
We do know that Hill beat up women and that he has had an ongoing volatile relationship with the mother of his children.
Interesting thoughts.
I would imagine “anonymous empathy” where you feel compelled to feel empathy toward someone you don’t know, will never meet and could never cause any impact on them from your empathy (is a celebrity) is the height of what you describe.