Galeb
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As any novice knows, any description of a disorder is overly simplistic. The example I gave was of the textbook "classic" case. Every individual is different, with a unique genetic makeup and life experiences. Those with disorders rarely fit perfectly into some neat, cookie-cutter profile. That said, strong tendencies and commonalities can be found.I think you're being overly simplistic, and perhaps projecting your own imaginary reality. I don't know of any sound studies in this area so if you do please post pointers to the info. I will say the one childhood friend that I had that suffered from a mild case of affluenza certainly did not fit your description. Yes the hired help fixed the meals but the family dined together, and there was about the same amount parental interaction as in my solidly middle class family (my parents spent huge amounts of time working outside the home). He was given everything, never had to work hard, retired the day he graduated from college and lived a life of hedonism and drugs until his premature death, attributed to a heart attack and in my opinion probably caused by heart damage resulting from years of cocaine and other drugs. Sad, but not for lack of parental interaction as much as the wrong kind of parenting. He was spoiled and enabled by parents who loved him but did not give him tough love.
My understanding is that Manziel's family gave him the smoothest free ride possible as he was growing up and developing, every advantage possible. I don't know that it was a lack of contact and support as much as a lack of adversity (it's a cliche that adversity builds character) and challenge. Don't know enough to have a full picture but what I've seen says his family enabled him, at least until the trainwreck was too obvious to overlook.
Also should note that the case originating the term "affluenza" definitely involved a supportive family, the kid's mother took him on the run and fled to Mexico trying to avoid the consequences of his parole violation. That's sick, but it's not an absent parent not supporting the kid.
I suspect the whole thing is too complicated for simple models. Why did Jonathan Kraft turn out okay while my friend had a very similar situation but did not? Why did Manziel get QB hero status handed to him on a silver platter and blow it when Peyton Manning took the same thing and did not screw it up (apart from maybe dodging a teabag once)? I'm sure there's a lot more to it than just having a nanny or housekeeper.
Your interpretation that I implied that it is caused by simply having a nanny or housekeeper is far from accurate. I'd like to highlight some of the words that you directly quoted. "Those not elite aren't always surrounded by hired help, and face real consequences for their actions." Notice the part that refers to facing real consequences for their actions. That is something lacking in EVERY case of affluenza that I have dealt with. You also quoted me saying "The super wealthy who deal mostly with "the help" get away with whatever they want, and have the means to indulge whatever they want with little or no repercussions." They key point is that they can indulge in whatever they want with little or no repercussions. This isn't caused by wealth, but such circumstances are rarely achieved by those not wealthy. I would cite more examples, but these two are sufficient to eviscerate your misinterpretation (or intentional miscategorization) of what I actually wrote.
Unfortunately, I don't have a google reference to give you on the subject. The vast majority of my knowledge of affluenza comes from my role as a lead technical consultant for the last year for a long term affluenza study. Although the study includes a little less than 100 people, it gathers numerous biometric data points, relates them to data gathered by therapists, researchers, doctors and law enforcement, and analyzes the data using a number of different models. Although this may pale in comparison to having one "friend" diagnosed with a mild case, it's far from "projecting my own reality".
Although it is a small sample size, of the dozens in the study, only a handful weren't raised by a nanny and only 1 came from a family that wasn't wealthy. Wealth certainly doesn't cause affluenza, but the circumstances that contribute to it are rarely experienced by those that aren't rich.
It is also worth noting that when I say family "support", that doesn't necessarily mean "attention". If a parent isn't disciplining their children when they behave badly, and constantly bails them out so they never face significant consequences for their actions they're not "supporting" their kids, their setting them up for failure.
The term affluenza has been around since at least the 70s. If you believe the term began with Ethan Couch, you have much to learn before you can positively contribute to this conversation.