1. Brady yelling at McD is not a great look, in the same way that Rodgers looking over at the Packers sideline earlier in the season and saying "dumb f*cking call" was not a great look. It also arguably makes McD look weak, which isn't right, and might be why Brady pained to say what a great coordinator McD was this morning on WEEI.
2. On the other hand, Phil Simms clashed with Parcells. Starr once told Lombardi to never reprimand him again. Warren Moon described the '93 Oilers as leaderless. All these guys are rightfully celebrated. As Parcells once said, it's not a game for the well-adjusted.
3. Brady yelling at McD is not equivalent to OBJ's myriad antics over the years, if only because no one would question Brady's commitment to the team. Can you really say the same about OBJ? Isn't there a difference between over-the-top competitive behavior--even when it's arguably not right--and just being a douche bag?
4. To say it's perspective is inadequate. YES, there are cases of this in sports and life, definitely. But there's objective differences too. For instance, Jason Peters more or less deliberately sat out in the final games of Chip Kelly's tenure in Philly because he refused to play for him. Michael Strahan famously clashed with Coughlin early on when the Colonel went to the Giants. No one, or at least, no one sane thought either of these guys were 'punks' or whatever lame euphemism is often used to describe black athletes people don't like. Instead, they were respected vets who had legit beefs with their coaches, and it was up to their coaches to fix it (or get fired).
5. Hard to say there's a double standard for Brady getting a pass, when everyone is *****ing about Brady getting a pass.
tl;dr: Brady's tantrum isn't an example of a double standard. But he kinda did totally **** up that play too.