I'd say it's pretty relevant. When you know that your ability to succeed at doing your job is in part dependent on your ability to coexist with someone, that should affect how you conduct yourself. If it doesn't, then that's not a good thing.
We will have to agree to disagree. In this part of the discussion we are(or at least I am) talking about the inappropriateness of the behavior on a personal level.
Let me rephrase that: if I said those things to someone who was quite clearly the wrong person, and continued to do so after that person expressed the desire to commit suicide, then I would be Incognito.
First, RI considered them jokes. So if you made jokes about someone who later told you that they almost got fired for screwing up on their job and thought about suicide, that would lead you to stop joking with them? Really?
Martin never connected the jokes with the suicidal thoughts.
I certainly respect watching out for the person, but I dont know that I would think it means stop kidding with them when they have not said it bothers them.
Go back and read what a few of the offensive linemen subjected their assistant trainer to. If I did that to *anybody*, then yeah, I'd be an ******* who deserved what I got.
I'm not sure what your point is. There poor behavior materialized as racism. There are many other poor behaviors that are just as bad.
We were talking about RI/JM though.
He admitted that he had a bet over which player (and Martin was one of them) would 'break' first, then fined himself money for succeeding in breaking him.
We do not know the definition of break.
Based on their texts, it looks like they were friends. That definitely does complicate the issue, and it's the only reason why I'm trying to give Incognito any benefit of the doubt at all. Lines get blurred when you're dealing with friends, I'll be the first to acknowledge that. But even having acknowledged that, he clearly crossed the line.
At what point do you think he crossed the line?
I just see a bunch of things that are not uncommon in a lockerrom that many players would have laughed off. I don't know how he knew Martin took it so hurtfully.
If you are saying making the jokes that are common is crossing the line because someone could be offended, I think that is naive. It would be nice if humans were like that but they aren't, especially the ones in an FL lockerroom
If you're going to say the kind of **** that he says and do the kind of **** that he does, then you have to assume responsibility for the fallout if you're so colossally stupid that you 'break' your friend. There were warning signs there, and even a stupid person like Incognito should have had no trouble picking them up.
Again, if similar things have routinely happened in his 10 years in the NFL, then how would he really expect this. I think he did take responsibility, by the way, when the shlt hit the fan, did he not?
Then that would be my fault and my problem.
Thats all I am saying. Everyone (almost everyone at least) has been in a position where they have done or said things that if the audience were wrong (in this case Martin) you would look like Incognito.
That doesn't make him right but to categorize him as deviously plotting to mentally abuse Jonathan Martin, and implying he felt it could cause suicide and continuing is misinterpreting the facts.
I'll be the first to agree that stupid things, ballbusting, hazing, etc. happen in a locker room, and that expecting to stop them is dumb. NFL locker rooms can't realistically (and shouldn't) be held to the standards of a corporate workplace. Football players are generally meatheads, and you have to account for that.
An important factor here.
As I clearly pointed out in my previous posts, it wouldn't surprise me if Incognito didn't fully realize how far over the line he'd gone. He may have even been well-intentioned; we all know people who have no idea where 'the line' is, and maybe he's that guy. That's part of why I'd still be fine with it if the Patriots signed him after the Dolphins cut him. But that doesn't change the fact that he's responsible for his actions.
I agree.
There is a difference between responsible for what you caused and causing it malicious and intentionally, which I see as the main divergence in this thread.