That Watt thing is the definition of taunting, and that's where refs lose control of games ... when they don't control the player interactions with other players.
Let me ask you this: When have you ever, EVER, seen a game get out of hand regarding treatment of the refs? When have you ever seen a player(s) deliberately escalate/push the boundaries with refs due to an uncalled USC penalty for flipping the ball?
I love this. You're saying that it's imperative that refs throw flags at the slightest (perceived) offense against them, otherwise the players will keep testing the boundaries, and potentially move up to assault, I guess. But when it comes to controlling the actual players who are clearly taunting other players, they should allow some latitude.
Lastly, the replacement refs lost control of games because they were overmatched regarding calls that affected gameplay, not because they failed to assert their ref dominance. Are you s******* me?