Twenty years on

[Patsfanin Philly]

20 years on.....
In memory of Max
1/18/91- 2/7/93
Time doesn't heal a broken heart, it just teaches you how to live with it.
----------------------------------------------------
Garden of Stone

He wiped away the snow
and laid down a single rose.
Thinking of what might have been,
and pain only the bereaved knows.

Another tear falls in a garden of stone.....

He could have been President,
a ballplayer or won a Nobel prize.
But it'll never come to be,
and we'll never look into his eyes.

They said it was routine,
Don't worry, we do it every day.
But something went oh so wrong,
now they don't know what to say.

Another tear falls in a garden of stone.....

We watched the tubes and wires,
and they said that he was gone.
A life snuffed out too early,
never to see another dawn.

Another tear falls
in the garden of stone.
Another day passes
and they're all alone.

The world gets older
but he's still two.
And we dream of things,
he'll never do.

He'll never ride a two wheeler,
Or take a bus to school.
All we have are our memories,
we've lost our precious jewel.

Never play in little league
never steal a first kiss,
We think of all those things
he's going to miss.

Never go to college,
never walk down the aisle,
Never know the joys of parenthood.
we miss him all the while.

Another tear falls in the garden of stone.


-MKK

 

[Mrs.PatsFanInVa]

I cannot imagine any pain that would be worse than the pain of losing a child.

I am in awe of those who live through it.

They are, in my mind, the bravest of the brave.

My sympathies, PFinP.

 

[Ian]

My sympathies as well. I was also very touched by the poem, and I echo Mrs.PatsFanInVa's sentiments

 

[everlong]

20 years on.....
In memory of Max
1/18/91- 2/7/93
Time doesn't heal a broken heart, it just teaches you how to live with it.

I lost my daughter nearly 3 years ago and she was just slightly older than Max. Your words could not be more true. The lead up to the birthday and day of passing are particularly hard and yours are very close together. Peace to you and your family.

Scott father of Emerson 11/3/07 -- 3/1/10

 

[shmessy]

My deepest respect to you guys and my heartsong goes out to the eternal souls of Max and Emerson.

 

[patsfan13]

Don't come here often, I have a couple of kids and a grandson who is a little older than Max.

Losing a child is tragic and something that never goes away. He is in heaven waiting for the rest of the family, he will always be 2, and perfect.

 

[supafly]

God bless the soul of your little lost one. As others have mentioned, I cannot imagine the intense pain of something so terrible.

I honestly could not bear to read the poem in its entirety, due to the fresh feelings that I still have from my younger brother, who was much like a son to me due to our personal situation with our parents. I basically raised him throughout his formative years, and had to recently go through the pain of watching him struggle on life support for what seemed like forever. I know that the world can be very difficult for those who must endure such tragedies, and I hope that you can find peace from time to time.

One thing is for sure...you are very strong for continuing to push on, and I admire you for that trait.

 

[Patsfanin Philly]

And another year passes.........This year was very different with the crazy storms and losing power (at home and work) for 3 days. People were freaking out and I was almost nonchalant about it..When you've seen the worst that like can dole out, it takes more than a little storm to bother you...



The world gets older
but he's still two.
And we dream of things,
he'll never do.

 

[Patriot_in_NY]

Bless you PFiF. Have a son that was born several weeks before Max. Cannot imagine losing him…. let alone at such a you age…… Peace to you an your family.

 

[Mrs.PatsFanInVa]

Thoughts and prayers for you and yours, PFinP.

 

[everlong]

Days come and go but the memories and the love never fade. Peace to you and your family.

 

[Patsfanin Philly]

I wonder....what he could have become.....
I wonder.... what he would have become....
I wonder... what he should have become....

Max 1/18/91-2/7/93

 

[Kontradiction]

I wonder....what he could have become.....
I wonder.... what he would have become....
I wonder... what he should have become....

Max 1/18/91-2/7/93

He had a 50/50 shot of doing whatever you do for a living. In adolescence, we rebel against the idea of becoming our fathers but eventually we end up more and more like them because we are wired in a lot of the same ways when you get right down to it. Then you grow up and appreciate your father more and more and how he was there for you throughout your life and make peace with just becoming the best version of them. You seem like a good man with a sharp head on your shoulders from our limited conversations here over the years. I’m sorry that had to happen to you and your wife. I can’t even imagine what that was like and what it is like now to wonder what would have been with Max. But in reading your thoughts on everything from the Pats to politics to shooting the breeze in the Pub forum to this, I don’t have much of a doubt that he would have been a good kid and a good man. I’m sorry for your loss.

 

[everlong]

20 years on.....
In memory of Max
1/18/91- 2/7/93
Time doesn't heal a broken heart, it just teaches you how to live with it.
----------------------------------------------------
Garden of Stone

He wiped away the snow
and laid down a single rose.
Thinking of what might have been,
and pain only the bereaved knows.

Another tear falls in a garden of stone.....

He could have been President,
a ballplayer or won a Nobel prize.
But it'll never come to be,
and we'll never look into his eyes.

They said it was routine,
Don't worry, we do it every day.
But something went oh so wrong,
now they don't know what to say.

Another tear falls in a garden of stone.....

We watched the tubes and wires,
and they said that he was gone.
A life snuffed out too early,
never to see another dawn.

Another tear falls
in the garden of stone.
Another day passes
and they're all alone.

The world gets older
but he's still two.
And we dream of things,
he'll never do.

He'll never ride a two wheeler,
Or take a bus to school.
All we have are our memories,
we've lost our precious jewel.

Never play in little league
never steal a first kiss,
We think of all those things
he's going to miss.

Never go to college,
never walk down the aisle,
Never know the joys of parenthood.
we miss him all the while.

Another tear falls in the garden of stone.


-MKK

So sorry mate. I'm coming up on ten years in March and I feel your pain.

Peace to Max, you and your family. You are in my thoughts today and every day.

 

[maust]

I wonder....what he could have become.....
I wonder.... what he would have become....
I wonder... what he should have become....

Max 1/18/91-2/7/93

My wife and I know all too well there are no words adequate to the loss of a child.
This world has taken so many trips around its Sun since Little Miss Magic left us that we are now surrounded by the warmth and wonder of grandchildren. Yet not a day goes by when I don't think as you do. I wonder...what she would have become...where her path might have taken her...what her children would have been like...

Grieving the loss of a child is a long process, it starts when they pass and ends when we do.
My heart goes out to you & the Mrs, please remember to celebrate (for lack of a better expression) each other in some small way today. I wish peace on your souls as you continue putting one foot in front of the other.

 

[IcyPatriot]

I could not possibly begin to understand your pain and grief
Patsfinin Philly and Maust ... the worst pain any parent has ever experienced.
I can pray to God the memories of your lost children stay strong to your last breathe.

 

[oceansizer]

No words can describe the pain of losing a child. Sometimes silence is better. Hope no parents will encounter it.