The second point is also very important in any athletic league, including scholastic leagues.
People have been excluded before for circumstances beyond their control. An example, I tried out for the wrestling team, but I was so naturally big and strong that I was above the biggest weight class normally competing in my little backwoods scholastic league. No one was big enough and strong enough to take me on, they tried to get an exception to get me into the biggest weight class they had and people said no because they didn't want their wrestlers getting hurt.
So because I was a physical freak, I didn't get to compete.
So you'll forgive me if I don't necessarily feel incredible sympathy for TG students who made a choice that took them out of the compeittion. If it's part of the price they paid for their own mental health they should accept that as something that goes with the package. That's the fate of us square pegs.
I know some people like you.......they're the ones who say things like "college for my kid? bah.......I never went and look at me"