I think you're going a bit overboard.
I'm not happy the season is over, but I'm not surprised, and I wasn't emotionally devastated by this loss because I didn't think this team had what it took. I really didn't have much confidence in this team going into the game, based on their roller coaster performance all season. This was clearly not the kind of Pats team we have become accustomed to (spoliled by?). I outlined some of my doubts this morning in
http://www.patsfans.com/new-england-patriots/messageboard/10/270707-one-post-week-state-pats.html (see post #212), and was unfortunately correct. I didn't expect quite this level of meltdown, but I think in some ways it's a good thing to cleanse and move forwards.
I'm still optimistic for the future. I'm particularly optimistic about BB and TB. Brady is still one of the greatest of all time. He needs to re-assess himself and decide whether he is on the downside of his career, or whether he has what it takes to pick up and come back better than ever. I have no doubt that he can do so if he wants to. He needs to go back to doing what made him great in the first place - smart decision making, spreading the ball around, making the clutch play. I want him to go back to being Joe Montana, not morphing into Dan Marino. It doesn't suit his skills.
The FO needs to be absolutely ruthless about assessing this team from top to bottom, including itself. There is plenty of talent here and the nucleus for a contending team. The margin between an also-ran and a SB contender is not great - the Saints were 8-8 last year, and the Chargers looked mediocre at the beginning of this year. We can turn things around, I have no doubt. But hte margin between an also-ran and a bottom dweller is also not great, and we need to be absolutely brutal about doing what it takes to clean out the deadwood and leave this team with a solid nucleus to move forward.
BB also needs to decide whether this is the end of the dynasty or the beginning of another run. It's reasonable to say that after 10 years any coach may not have the same fire in his belly and be willing to do what it takes. If that's the case, perhaps we need to move on. If he's burned out, maybe he needs to step away from coaching and take a rest they way Cowher, Shanahan and Holmgren did. I wouldn't fault him if that were the case. But if BB still has that fire, there's no one better. He needs to be equally critical of himself and the staff he has assembled, and realize that they have simply not done an adequate job of putting the players in a position to win.
I think you could see tremendous turnover this offseason, with a lot of role guys leaving - Kevin Faulk, Stephen Neal, Jarvis Green, Adalius Thomas, Derrick Burgess, Matt Light, Nick Kaczur, Ben Watson, Leigh Bodden, Shawn Springs, Logan Mankins and Vince Wilfork are just some of the names who could leave. The FO has to decide who is worth keeping and who should move on. We certainly need a hungrier, more physical team than the one that took the field in 2009. That team was too often soft, unable to execute the big play, unable to put away an opponent, and unable to rise to a challenge. We would do better with a less talented but hungrier team, like we had in 2001. And that includes the head coach if BB no longer has the drive or creativity that he used to. I personally don't think that will turn out to be the case, and that BB will rise to the challenge, but I could be wrong.
This uncapped year is a perfect time to reshape this team for the future. We have more wealth in the next 2 drafts (very talented drafts) than any other team in the NFL. The likelihood of an uncapped year will make it easier to trim the deadwood without severe cap repercussions than in the past, and to spend a bit more to bring in some key pieces if necessary.
Take a deep breath. As you say, hopefully next year will feature a much tougher, more physical, and aggressive team, from top to bottom, including the FO and coaching staff. The talent is there, but the mentality and experience was lacking this year.
This could be the end of the dynasty, or the start of a whole new adventure ....