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  1. NYCPatsFan

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    I tossed my 7 yr old stained Pats sweatshirt into my donation/to-be-tossed pile of clothes. (it was light colored and had too many beer and coffee stains ok??:confused2:)

    I also removed the two Pats cutouts from my windows and kept them away. In no mood to hear or see about them. :mad:

    Sad to say but as of 5.45 PM EST, the logical part of my brain has checked out of this team for this season, whereas the emotional part, suprisingly, is trying its best to smile and ignore this pain. Usually it is the other way. :(

    My only hope now is that this is similar to my golf game where I keep giving it up after every bad shot and am shamelessly back the next day. :D
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  2. Joker

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    I'm dealing with it fine

    my dog???....not so much
  3. Deus Irae

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    I'm just thinking of how the homers will try to spin everything. That should be entertainment enough.
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    I'm not angry, I'm upset. I'm a logical fan. I think a team has to earn what they achieve. I think the best teams should win. Right now it's clear that we are not a great team. I'm fine with the realization that we probably aren't going deep in the playoffs this year. The Pats haven't EARNED it. Thus, I don't feel like they deserve it. If they turn things around, great. I'd love to see this team win another Superbowl. However, I won't stop being a fan of football just because my favorite team isn't doing well.
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    Ignoring all football related programming, and trying to see SOME silver lining that this team should still make the playoffs. It's not working all that well... I could live with New Orleans. That was a fired up team that is CLEARLY more talented taking the Patriots to the woodshed. Up 14-0, 21-19 with 1st in goal in the 4th quarter, and can't close the deal and, essentially, lock up the division... this one will bother me immensely...
  6. NYCPatsFan

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    You are neither angry nor upset? Curious how you would categorize your current emotions. Please indulge me. (I am not baiting you...genuine curiosity.)

    Joker - that was a really funny response. :) And hope you were joking. :D
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    You know- I scream and yell at the T. V. saying stupid things like "you bums deserve to lose" "it's all your fault Brady going for it all instead of little short passes" then boom I'm done and next week I'll be sitting in front of the t.v. again just like I have been for the past 36 years.:D
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    I stopped caring around this time....

    I see 3rd and 8 coming up.

    Brady lines up with Faulk the single set back, looks familiar doesn't it?

    Brady puts his head down, are we REALLY running this play again?

    Brady turns his body, you've got to be ******* kidding me right?

    Brady hands off and Faulk is smothered at the LOS as if the fins weren't fooled at all (wonder why :eek:)

    I just laughed at that point and it saved me alot of emotional distress.
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    LMAO thats exactly what I did. If I can tell what an NFL TEAM is going to run on a play, it shows how bland the playcalling is.
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    you cant have any emotions when they were all thrown out the window mon night

    my pats hat is done for the yr
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    Good post.

    I'm not angry. I'm resigned. The Pats proved they are not an elite team. Now they've proved they are at best a borderline playoff team. The 2009 Pats ranks with 2002, 2005 and 2008 as the weakest teams of the BB era (not counting 2000, which was a rebuilding year).

    We've shown several things so far this season:

    1. We can't beat any good team. Couldn't beat the Jets or Broncos when they were hot, or the Saints or Colts.

    2. We can't win on the road.

    3. We can't fix our red zone problems.

    4. We can't put teams away.

    Most importantly, unlike most BB teams, we haven't been able to correct problems and get better. We don't seem to have learned from our mistakes.

    We may make the playoffs. But I have little confidence that we belong there the way we are playing right now. We've gone into the most critical 5 game stretch of our season and gone 2-3, blowing 4th quarter leads twice and laying a duck egg on national TV in a showdown game. Our coaching staff makes the same mistakes over and over again, and we lack the horses in certain key areas, most notably the pass rush.

    3 weeks ago I believed that if we faced Indy in the playoffs we would win. I believed that we were mad as hell after the Indy loss and would go on a rampage the rest of the season. That hasn't happened. My guess right now is that if we faced Indy in the playoffs (which may happen, as we will likely be a #4 seed if we make the playoffs and get by the #5 wild card team, probably Denver) they would shred us.

    The 2008 team minus Tom Brady finished the season on a high note as one of the best teams in the NFL. Despite missing the playoffs, we were clearly a team no one wanted to face, and much better than the Dolphins. We had a balanced offense with a potent running game. This team isn't near the caliber of that one right now.

    I sort of hope we miss the playoffs at this point. I don't think we really belong, the way we've played this season. Indy, Cincinnnati, San Diego and Denver are clearly better teams than we are. Denver had some problems but has regrouped, and appears to have actually fixed them. We haven't fixed anything.
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    At least we aren't the Jets. Or the Steelers.
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    My concerns about this team have been around since the departures of Pioli and McDaniels, so there's nothing really shocking about what I've been seeing. After moments of "WTH?" while watching the games (that 4th down inside the 10 was just a terrible play call, for example), I find myself going numb pretty quickly.
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    Ignoring Sirius NFL Radio, ESPN, and all other football until next Sunday.

    Ohh, and Xvideos and similiar sites are your best friend on days like these. :popcorn:
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    Mythbusters marathon.

    It's a ******* game, people. It was created for our enjoyment. If you're going to *****, moan, and become more insufferable than Jets fans every time they lose, then find a new hobby.

    I want to see them win, obviously, otherwise I wouldn't watch the games... but I'm also not going to cry myself to sleep when they lose. For ****'s sake.
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    Mayo, resignation is a way of accepting the fate. What were your feelings before today's game?

    Chances are you were hoping we are going to bounce back from that stinging Monday night loss and expecting us to run the table.

    If yes, the immature and helpless manner in which we lost again today has to lead to being upset/flustered/annoyed/angry etc.
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    Just disappointed thats all...I dont mind the pats being beat but they seem to lack a coherent idea of what they want to do on all phases of the game..coaching included. Thats how i would sum it up. Especially on offense.
    Its not the same talent and its not the same coaches. The signings of galloway,burgess havent helped and BB is now trying to make it work with whatever patchwork team he has with no coaching leadership or player leadership to take charge.
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    The question is, how will you deal with your emotions on superbowl sunday:

    "18-0 vs 18-0"
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    I stopped caring last week. Now i'm jsut watchign the games hoping we win but not counting on it. I dont have the time or patience to be stressed over how bad we are or get upset after the losses.
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    In other words after an incredible 8 year run we're reduced to being just like the fans of all the other teams (possibly excepting Indy and this year, the Saints).
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    yeah right! Go thru the postings of all the fans in the last dozen new threads to get a feel for what most of us are going thru and then try re-calibrating your psychology so that us distraught fans can understand what the doc is saying. :rolleyes:

    Of course it is a friggin game and of course none of what we lament and moan is going to make an iota of difference. But so what if the passionate among us vent? Jeez...

    And, in your hurry to distill your armchair psychology to us kids, you forget that venting is a great outlet for getting over the disappointment/anger quickly. Or, maybe you were not aware of it...
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    Satchboogie nailed it. You were doing OK too until you got to the last two paragraphs. The 2008 team faced a far less daunting schedule and absent Brady the target was off our backs for a change and everyone's expectations were tempered (except intermittently on this board...). We wern't everyone's weekly superbowl. We also may have been slower on D but we were a lot more savvy. And with Tommy on IR Randy kind went through the motions treading water and lamenting his second shot for a time and others learned to pick up the slack. Can't seem to do that this season as some of the pieces are less consistent or talented than in 2008 and Moss' championship expectations are back on the table.


    Ya know, I'm getting sick of this team attempting to fill expectations, be it fans or media or aging players. They really need to get back to basics and build a solid core around Brady including a running game and get their chameleon on and start doing whatever it takes and taking whatever your given and quit trying to reinvent the wheel. Teams have had almost three years to figure out this offense, and they seem to have a good bead on it if they have the horses or coaching to match up. Maybe if Galloway and Springs and Taylor had panned out...but those moves just don't seem to anymore. Since the cap expanded the guys who are available are available for good reason and it's not financial.
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    Frustrated in the latter portion of the game all the way through the end. Now simply deflated. I feel like the Pats are just ******* with me at this point. I wait all week for this, and this is how I'm rewarded for it.

    Jets: curb-stomped (scoreboard doesn't reflect it but the Pats offense was demolished)

    Broncos: choked (up 10 at halftime, shutdown in the second half)

    Colts: choked (up 17 in the 4th quarter, we already know how that ended)

    Saints: curb-stomped (and that's putting it nicely)

    Dolphins: choked (this team can't finish... they can't...*******....finish)

    Now I'm angry again.
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    You can think that. But throwing fits and overreacting after a loss is not something I feel like doing. I'm still here every single week and i watch the games ever single week but I'm not putting that kind of stress on myself.
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    I will root for the Colts, because as much as they are our rivals, you can't help but have respect for them, and in particular, Peyton. However, this would be the only time I would ever root for them...I think the main reason I wouldn't root for the Saints is simply that im not an NFC guy. Not so much that I have anything against the Saints, but im simply loyal to the AFC...BUT the ideal Superbowl sunday would feature neither one of these teams...
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    Part of me laughs, that at my age there is still a part of me that takes it so seriously that it leaves me feeling hollow for 30 minutes afterwards. I feel embarrassed about this, but that is part of being a fan.
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    WHAT?...This IS my life!!!

    I'll be right back in the armchair next weekend,,,nothing changes
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    I envy you. Very, very much. I'm guilty of caring far too much. My problem is this is how I'm programmed. It's hard to take the foot off the pedal.

    Don't get me wrong; I keep myself grounded, knowing I have exactly ZERO influence on the outcome of the game. But I've been a sore loser my entire life. I hate losing. And I hate seeing the people/teams I root for lose. So it gets really frustrating when you see a team that is capable of so much more just continue to punish themselves.
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    I have way bigger problems trying to stay in business in this economy. I enjoy the Patriots win or lose.
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