The five stages of grief

WIPatriots said:

I did this bargaining BEFORE the game: "Dear Lord, I will accept the Clintons as the Democratic nominee if you just allow the Patriots to win the Super Bowl."

Now I might be doubly screwed.

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HA HA HA HA!!!! I am laughing out loud....because I generally do the same sort of thing. Brilliant, just brilliant....


Still laughing.....

It was around 3:15 - 3:30 am when the game finished in th UK and I went through the first 2 denial & anger very quickly, bargaining doesn't really apply. Depression as a such was monday morning and afternoon vowing never to go near any NFL stuff until April. By the evening Acceptance as I was listening to WEEI online knowing that no one has died etc.

Still hurts like heck though.

For anyone who's not a sports fan, I'm sure this idea/thread seems melodramatic, but it's really not. There is a grieving that goes on. The best thing for it is time, really. And another couple super bowls.

To be honest, this is exactly what happened. I think I'm in the acceptance phase now, but I still have denial and depression going on a bit. Oh well, only entertainment.

I'm on the "WTF couldn't Samuel have held onto that INT" stage

The thing about those stages is they can happen out of order AND they can recur. I took a class on this once.

I'm in denial, just trying to pretend nothing happened. But there's anger & bargaining bits in there too. The anger is nothing new, I've been feeling it all season for different reasons.

Hey gang, first time on since the loss.

Jesus what a game, we had our chances.

Samuel, Meriweather, Hobbs missing potential picks, Eli escape, pass on the field goal, when it was 4th and 12, I was yelling my lungs out at the tv on that one, I honestly knew it was gonna come back and haunt us.

Brady had next to no time back there Sunday and you have to credit the Giant's D. They came up huge, combined with the O-line coming up lackluster.

Why couldn't Rodney have just batted that ball out, it was soooo close.

I felt sick to my stomach Sunday night, all day yesterday and when I think about the chances we had to end the game, man, it sucks.

Now, we have to think about going forward. I think what happened Sunday was the exception and not the rule. Although I would be open on suggestions on how to potentially improve that O line, if we even have to.

Without time, Brady is not Brady, same holds true for Welker and Moss.

I like seeing Welker in our uniform and I hope he is with us for a long time.

I dunno, it's a bad feeling to have so much emotional investment into a team when it losses by 3 on a perfect season.

Man.

There is next year though, it is a great time to be a Patriots fan lately.

As sick as I am I am glad we have what we have. We'll bounce back, the sun will rise again, and we will live to fight another day!!

Where is "excessively drinking to stop the pain"? Is that not a stage?

I can't see passed denial and depression.

I'm having a hard time with it. Having not seen one sports page, sports website (other than here), or sports TV and radio since sunday afternoon, I believed has helped soften the initial blow, but in turn made the state of denial drag out. Sooner or later I will have to get used to the fact that that Tyree catch is part of Super Bowl folklore, and like "the catch" and vinatieri's field goal, and images of Vince Lombardi parading snowy sidelines, we will be seeing it as long as we are watching sports. Ugh. Sometime soon, I'm gonna have to pick myself back up and dust off. Sunday was a battle in a war that has not yet been won, and there are many battles left to fight.

I'm sitting steady at #4. I've conceded defeat and realized I'm not going to wake up and have it be the 3rd. Now as I think about it depression just creeps in. #5 is a long time coming.

When I came to work yesterday morning, I told people I was on a 24-48 suicide watch (kidding of course)..........today I came to work and said the watch was over.

I still have anger and depression over it.

And I refuse to watch ESPN or any other sports/news coverage this week. Just not ready to go there.

Maybe in a few weeks when this starts to blow over in the media, I can return to some of the programs I like to watch (PTI, Around the Horn, etc).

pwes said:

I'm sitting steady at #4. I've conceded defeat and realized I'm not going to wake up and have it be the 3rd. Now as I think about it depression just creeps in. #5 is a long time coming.

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I hear that and I'm with you. This is going to sting a while.

I am in the 6th stage of grief. That is the stage where you kick every GIANTS fan you can in the sack! GO PATS! I STILL LOVE YOU GUYS, even though you ripped my heart out and fed it to Bill Buckner! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!

I'm somewhere between 3 (Bargaining) and 4 (Depression). More toward 4.

It's gonna be long time before I get to 5.

i think i can get to 5 eventually (not for a while) but im not sure i'll ever 100% be over this loss
it's not like we were 14-2 and lost the sb, and a win next yr will heal it
(similar to 04 redeeming 03 for the sox)
no, we had a chance at something special
and chances are we'll never have that opportunity again

Tell you right now, no free agent signing or draft pick is going to make this feeling go away. The offseason just isn't going to be the same this year. I won't be satisfied until the final seconds tick away to a victory in the Super Bowl.

BadMoFo said:

Tell you right now, no free agent signing or draft pick is going to make this feeling go away. The offseason just isn't going to be the same this year. I won't be satisfied until the final seconds tick away to a victory in the Super Bowl.

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but even if we do that (while losing at least one game during the regular season) won't you still wish we seized the opportunity to be perfect?

I dont know if the 5 stages are supposed to happen independently of eachother. But the anger has subsided, depression has been there since the end of the game. That is starting to improve as well. But everytime I see a Giants photo or happen to catch ESPN, it comes back. The photos of the parade made me gag.

Acceptance, dont think its gonna happen soon.

patsfan55 said:

but even if we do that (while losing at least one game during the regular season) won't you still wish we seized the opportunity to be perfect?

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Absolutely. As great as a Superbowl victory in the future will be, there will be a little corner of me that will think back to what might have been this year.