She hasn't been convicted. So, to be fair, the charges could be untrue. Extreme family disputes can bring out the worst in people -- from ugly violence to ugly lying.
With that said, if it is true, yes it is unfair that HS largely gets a pass. IMHO it comes down to the HS story not getting the press coverage. Another example of not getting press coverage is the Ray Lewis statue unveiling. There should have been widespread condemnation of the Ravens over that, however, most of the public knows only what is spoken in the first two sentences of the first 60 seconds of a mass media outlet.
Now add to this mix: mass media has their 'outrage-condemnation matrix'. Race, ethnicity, attractiveness, socioeconomic condition, speech, age bracket, likability ....how all of these apply to both the perpetrator and victim is a major factor in whether most mass media outlets will give it air time. Hope Solo has enough of the favorable attributes found in the mass media matrix to make mass media press coverage much less likely (unless additional factors come in to nullify some of the matrix categories).