Anger Management - how are you dealing with your emotions?

[NYCPatsFan]

Mythbusters marathon.

It's a ******* game, people. It was created for our enjoyment. If you're going to *****, moan, and become more insufferable than Jets fans every time they lose, then find a new hobby.

I want to see them win, obviously, otherwise I wouldn't watch the games... but I'm also not going to cry myself to sleep when they lose. For ****'s sake.

yeah right! Go thru the postings of all the fans in the last dozen new threads to get a feel for what most of us are going thru and then try re-calibrating your psychology so that us distraught fans can understand what the doc is saying.

Of course it is a friggin game and of course none of what we lament and moan is going to make an iota of difference. But so what if the passionate among us vent? Jeez...

And, in your hurry to distill your armchair psychology to us kids, you forget that venting is a great outlet for getting over the disappointment/anger quickly. Or, maybe you were not aware of it...

 

[MoLewisrocks]

Good post.

I'm not angry. I'm resigned. The Pats proved they are not an elite team. Now they've proved they are at best a borderline playoff team. The 2009 Pats ranks with 2002, 2005 and 2008 as the weakest teams of the BB era (not counting 2000, which was a rebuilding year).

We've shown several things so far this season:

1. We can't beat any good team. Couldn't beat the Jets or Broncos when they were hot, or the Saints or Colts.

2. We can't win on the road.

3. We can't fix our red zone problems.

4. We can't put teams away.

Most importantly, unlike most BB teams, we haven't been able to correct problems and get better. We don't seem to have learned from our mistakes.

We may make the playoffs. But I have little confidence that we belong there the way we are playing right now. We've gone into the most critical 5 game stretch of our season and gone 2-3, blowing 4th quarter leads twice and laying a duck egg on national TV in a showdown game. Our coaching staff makes the same mistakes over and over again, and we lack the horses in certain key areas, most notably the pass rush.

3 weeks ago I believed that if we faced Indy in the playoffs we would win. I believed that we were mad as hell after the Indy loss and would go on a rampage the rest of the season. That hasn't happened. My guess right now is that if we faced Indy in the playoffs (which may happen, as we will likely be a #4 seed if we make the playoffs and get by the #5 wild card team, probably Denver) they would shred us.

The 2008 team minus Tom Brady finished the season on a high note as one of the best teams in the NFL. Despite missing the playoffs, we were clearly a team no one wanted to face, and much better than the Dolphins. We had a balanced offense with a potent running game. This team isn't near the caliber of that one right now.

I sort of hope we miss the playoffs at this point. I don't think we really belong, the way we've played this season. Indy, Cincinnnati, San Diego and Denver are clearly better teams than we are. Denver had some problems but has regrouped, and appears to have actually fixed them. We haven't fixed anything.

Satchboogie nailed it. You were doing OK too until you got to the last two paragraphs. The 2008 team faced a far less daunting schedule and absent Brady the target was off our backs for a change and everyone's expectations were tempered (except intermittently on this board...). We wern't everyone's weekly superbowl. We also may have been slower on D but we were a lot more savvy. And with Tommy on IR Randy kind went through the motions treading water and lamenting his second shot for a time and others learned to pick up the slack. Can't seem to do that this season as some of the pieces are less consistent or talented than in 2008 and Moss' championship expectations are back on the table.


Ya know, I'm getting sick of this team attempting to fill expectations, be it fans or media or aging players. They really need to get back to basics and build a solid core around Brady including a running game and get their chameleon on and start doing whatever it takes and taking whatever your given and quit trying to reinvent the wheel. Teams have had almost three years to figure out this offense, and they seem to have a good bead on it if they have the horses or coaching to match up. Maybe if Galloway and Springs and Taylor had panned out...but those moves just don't seem to anymore. Since the cap expanded the guys who are available are available for good reason and it's not financial.

 

[Lansdowne]

Frustrated in the latter portion of the game all the way through the end. Now simply deflated. I feel like the Pats are just ******* with me at this point. I wait all week for this, and this is how I'm rewarded for it.

Jets: curb-stomped (scoreboard doesn't reflect it but the Pats offense was demolished)

Broncos: choked (up 10 at halftime, shutdown in the second half)

Colts: choked (up 17 in the 4th quarter, we already know how that ended)

Saints: curb-stomped (and that's putting it nicely)

Dolphins: choked (this team can't finish... they can't...*******....finish)

Now I'm angry again.

 

[pwes]

In other words after an incredible 8 year run we're reduced to being just like the fans of all the other teams (possibly excepting Indy and this year, the Saints).

You can think that. But throwing fits and overreacting after a loss is not something I feel like doing. I'm still here every single week and i watch the games ever single week but I'm not putting that kind of stress on myself.

 

[Bartmac36]

The question is, how will you deal with your emotions on superbowl sunday:

"18-0 vs 18-0"

I will root for the Colts, because as much as they are our rivals, you can't help but have respect for them, and in particular, Peyton. However, this would be the only time I would ever root for them...I think the main reason I wouldn't root for the Saints is simply that im not an NFC guy. Not so much that I have anything against the Saints, but im simply loyal to the AFC...BUT the ideal Superbowl sunday would feature neither one of these teams...

 

[bob85ne]

Part of me laughs, that at my age there is still a part of me that takes it so seriously that it leaves me feeling hollow for 30 minutes afterwards. I feel embarrassed about this, but that is part of being a fan.

 

[Joker]

Part of me laughs, that at my age there is still a part of me that takes it so seriously that it leaves me feeling hollow for 30 minutes afterwards. I feel embarrassed about this, but that is part of being a fan.

WHAT?...This IS my life!!!

I'll be right back in the armchair next weekend,,,nothing changes

 

[Lansdowne]

You can think that. But throwing fits and overreacting after a loss is not something I feel like doing. I'm still here every single week and i watch the games ever single week but I'm not putting that kind of stress on myself.

I envy you. Very, very much. I'm guilty of caring far too much. My problem is this is how I'm programmed. It's hard to take the foot off the pedal.

Don't get me wrong; I keep myself grounded, knowing I have exactly ZERO influence on the outcome of the game. But I've been a sore loser my entire life. I hate losing. And I hate seeing the people/teams I root for lose. So it gets really frustrating when you see a team that is capable of so much more just continue to punish themselves.

 

[IcyPatriot]

I have way bigger problems trying to stay in business in this economy. I enjoy the Patriots win or lose.

 

[patsinthesnow]

YouTube - Super Bowl 42 The Catch

Watch it 100 times, its like taking drugs.

 

[JSn]

Think of this team as 9-7 and building toward next year.

Then, in the corner of my brain, I'll hope they surprise me.

I'm impressed with Maroney, Morris, Welker and Aiken. The rest... ugh.

 

[Lansdowne]

YouTube - Super Bowl 42 The Catch

Watch it 100 times, its like taking drugs.

Only if drugs are meant to induce vomiting.

 

[FloridaHerb]

Right after the game I went to Chipotle's and slammed down a barbacoa burrito. Once I finally stop going to the bathroom every 20 minutes it'll be Wednesday afternoon and the loss will be behind me. (crappy pun intended)

 

[PaulNEPats]

it sucks to see them lose but at the end of the day, it's just a game. It's not like these players give a damn about us.

 

[ensoul]

I was really upset at the Jets Loss.

I was really upset the broncos loss.

I did not sleep after the Colts loss.

I came to the realization that after the Saints loss that this team is nothing but a second tier team.

I was only slightly upset after this loss because I already have an acceptance after the Saints loss this team is not a contender anyway.

 

[NYCPatsFan]

Part of me laughs, that at my age there is still a part of me that takes it so seriously that it leaves me feeling hollow for 30 minutes afterwards. I feel embarrassed about this, but that is part of being a fan.

I like the fact that I get passionate, thrilled, upset, angry etc. And it delights me to confess such immature acts of mine because the minute I step out of my apartment, I am calmness personified and pass off like a wise old man that I am. . Well, not 'wise' but certainly old.

Thanks to this forum, I immediately cooled down when I saw the # of angry posts right after the game and I was glad that I wasn't that pissed off to demand BB or TB's head.

My anger-turned-upset-turned-disappointment is on seeing such a talented team that had achieved so much in the past flounder like this.

 

[muzz]

Right after the game I went to Chipotle's and slammed down a barbacoa burrito. Once I finally stop going to the bathroom every 20 minutes it'll be Wednesday afternoon and the loss will be behind me. (crappy pun intended)

LMFAO!!

Well Done Sir!!
Enjoy this :eat3: maybe it'll help cool the flames.

 

[Pat the Pats Fan]

I was really hurt after the Colts loss, almost as bad as the game we can't mention. Monday night partially through the 3rd quarter I accepted that this team is not as good as I wanted to believe. Today was a confirmation of Monday night, that we are not that good. I didn't get that angry. It's almost like I am starting to disconnect, but I don't want to.

I watched Cinderella Man after the game, wanted to watch a winner. Watching Newhart right now, but I'm here too.

 

[bostonia3333]

I'm expecting Buffalo Bills-esque chokes from here on out--I dont yell or get angry--this is expected around here now. The Pats are just unclutch---I find it comical how the Pats seem to ALMOST make a good play at a crucial time, but fail to do it, like making a qb escape at the last nanosecond when the rare possibility of a sack arises.

I also consider us fortunate to have seen 3 Super Bowls in 4 years. Those 3 Super Bowls were won with lots of good fortune---our defense almost blew those games too Many don't remember this truth, but I do!

 

[Tunescribe]

I cursed at the TV set more during this game than any other, because this was supposed to be the start of our season-ending run. Instead, I was left with the realization that even if we get into the playoffs and win the first game, we're likely not making it past the second round. THAT was a depressing dose of reality, especially since I'll be attending the next three games in the cold. So, I was depressed for a couple hours afterward and now feel resignation.